This psychic is driving me crazy! - Married to an Empath Episode 3
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Take my relationship advice, don’t get into an argument with an empath
Tension in kitchen becomes drama in the kitchen
Paul: So it was years ago just when we started living together and it was late one Saturday morning. We had a slow start to the day. We were in the kitchen and I looked over and Satomi's just getting ready to go out the door and that kind of surprised me.
And I said to her “Hey where are you going? I thought we were going to work on those shelves and put them together.”
Satomi: And I said without looking at him and facing the door I'm just gonna go out.
Paul: [laughing] Yeah, that's a little bit what it was like. But there was real tension in the room - you could cut it with a knife. I could feel it right away.
And like here's the thing, I’ve been down this road before. I've done nothing at all and I'm just kind of being normal and she's upset. I know this has got something to do with me. Because hey! Everything is about me anyway!
Yeah, so I'm feeling like some anxiety building up in me because I'm thinking like “Oh no! This could be headed for a fight!” And so I say to her “Okay, so what's wrong?”
Satomi: And I said again to him “I just need to go out” without looking at him of course.
Paul: Of course you know I feel like I'm innocent and all of a sudden I'm being cast as guilty and so I say “I'm gonna... like... just hang out here. You can go outside and you can do your own thing. You can be mad if you want, but I'm gonna stay here and I'm gonna stay centered and just do my own thing.”
Satomi: [laughing] Yeah and then as soon as I heard him saying that “he was gonna stay centered” and “he's gonna be calm”, I had had enough.
I had to tell him “No, you're the one who's upset. You're the one who's mad and pissed off. Being centered and being calm is what you think. And what you think and what you are different!” And I took off.
Paul’s funny bathroom drama
Paul: Okay so then it's like later in the day around dinner time and Satomi’s getting dinner ready. She's down in the kitchen and I'm up in the bedroom. And I'm just kind of doing my own thing and she's making lots of noise. So I decide it's time for a little bit of “me time” so I go into the bathroom and I settle in.
It feels like just a couple of minutes into it. No? Okay so “a couple of minutes” into it and all of a sudden I looked and there's this text: “Are you gonna be done in the bathroom any time soon because dinner is getting cold?”
Oh my God! There's no way she could possibly know! I'm just being quiet and she's making all this noise! It’s driving me crazy because I can't have any space to myself right? There's like no place sacred! The bathroom is supposed to be sacred! But no it's not!
Satomi: [laughing]
My feelings, my thoughts, my actions are not my own any more ‒ a psychic can seem hard to live with
She is driving me crazy! There's nothing I can think, nothing I can feel, nothing I can do, that she doesn't know about!!! Living with a psychic! Oh my God! I have no space to myself! That's how I feel!
So… the thing in the kitchen... okay so I did have this anger and these deep-down, unresolved, childhood issues going on. They were down inside me. But so what? That's my deep-down subconscious! That's my business! That's none of her business! That's nobody's business!
I chose to push those feelings... those unresolved feelings down... way down where nobody can see them... right where they belong! Right?
But it's there and she knows about it. And she's getting all upset about it. And it's like i've done something wrong. But really I haven't done anything consciously.
And the thing in the bathroom... okay like there I am in my private personal space and I get this text and then like I feel like she's right there with me and I have no personal space again!
Every man knows that the bathroom is his personal private kingdom and the toilet is his throne. And it's kind of sacred. But it’s like I don't have that space and it... it just... it's all just driving me... just a little bit crazy!
Even if he doesn’t know it yet, he’s wrong. Am I right ladies?
Satomi: So the thing is the thing was already building up for quite some time and I couldn't take it anymore. So I was going out to have quiet time so I could calm down. But Paul didn't like it. He got even more pissed off.
And on top of that, what he said was he was gonna stay “calm” and “centered”. Excuse me! He is so pissed off. That's why I'm heading out.
Staying calm and staying centered is what he thinks. And what he thinks and what he is are different.
And the thing about the bathroom... I think every woman knows when her husband is in the bathroom right? And then I let him have his quiet time in his quiet space. I do that. But when time is up, time is up. Then I call him to come on down Right?
An empath healer with healing gifts in stinky wrapping to treat my emotional trauma
Paul: The thing is, I have had all this buried emotional trauma. Right? Your ability sees into it and it allows me to go through that healing process. But it's a very difficult process for us. If it was a client, then it's different. But with our relationship…
Satomi: It’s falling into a fight.
Paul: Yeah exactly, right? It's been quite a ride! I feel like I'm fine. And it feels like you're bringing all this stuff! But it's not you. You're just ahead of the curve of my stuff.
Satomi: Yeah. You used to say “don't tell me what I think! Don't tell me what I feel!”
Paul: Yeah. And so you bring me all these presents... here you go! But I have to make the choice to look past the stinky wrapping that it comes in.
Satomi: Yeah! But it's your own stinky wrapping!
Paul: It is my stink and you're doing your best to help me with it. And that's why actually I'm so grateful towards you for helping me with all that.
Satomi: [laughing] You're welcome.
Slowly Paul learned to make the choice to heal instead of arguing, to let go instead of fighting
Paul: [laughing] When I learned to stop resisting you. Right? And the messages that you were bringing to me… yes, they were uncomfortable messages... yes, they were in stinky wrapping. I didn't want those messages. But that's what life is like, right? Life isn't easy. So if I step back from it though and I face it. And I look for a message that's inside it. If I look past the drama and I say “what could there be in this difficulty… in this pain, that could help me move forward?”
And that's the key! The key is looking for that message, right? And Satomi is a messenger, right? As an empath... as a psychic... she's a messenger.
Satomi: It's difficult for me too, right? I don't want to be his psychic reader all the time. I put that aside. It's his journey. Let him walk through it. But then then it's affecting me. So, okay I cannot take it anymore. Here's the message. So what are you gonna do?
Paul: You try to do it so gently and beautifully with me and it's still really rough for you. It's my resistance... that's what's really the problem. And you feel like there's no space... that's my space but if I don't resist it, it doesn't create that tension, right?
Bathroom beautiful
She isn't reading me all the time. I mean, I do have my space if I don't resist. And when I work through this stuff, then it all calms down. And I and I can be in the bathroom on my own! It's... it's… really quite beautiful!
Satomi: [laughing]
Paul: So do you have somebody in your life who brings you messages that you don't necessarily want to hear, but after you work through it, you realize that it really had value for you? If there's somebody in your life like, that then let us know in the comments below. We'd love to hear about it.
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Satomi: You're welcome!
Paul: And we'll see you soon! Bye, bye!