Choosing love not fear heals the world

The world seems to be coming apart at the seams.  And it’s easy to feel anxious and at a loss as to how to fix it.  But the answer is actually very simple.  Believe it or not, it’s actually incredibly simple. Choose love not fear.

It’s all about the day-to-day choices we make

Paul:  So there's COVID, an election coming up, economic crazy-town, and just so much going on. But there's actually a really simple way to approach all this that will really help.  For starters, don't try to fix the whole world.  That's not what we're saying here.  

Big problems that you see in the world don't happen by themselves.  They happen because a lot of people are making choices... individual choices... and those little individual choices made by people acting in their immediate world right around them.  All those individual choices together are adding up.  And if those choices are coming from the wrong perspective, then they're adding up to a big problem.  

The approach to fix it is to go to the root of the problem.  Start working on your individual choices that you're making right now.  Just focus on the world immediately around you.  

The thing is that we make choices all the time right?  We make choices about what to watch online or on TV.  We make choices in our relationships - how we relate to each other every single day.   

Satomi:  Yeah like what to eat.  

Paul:  Yeah, exactly.  So the trick is to make choices that are based on love instead of fear.  

Satomi:  Okay so how do you do that?  

Whom do we listen to?  Is it the voice of fear telling us to be afraid or do we choose to respect our peaceful, calm space?

Paul:  Okay, so let's break down the examples a little bit.  The news, for example, does not help here.  

Satomi:  Yeah, I don't watch news at all.  

Paul:  Yeah, they're just stoking the fear all the time right?  Making you afraid of what's happening.  But you know it's totally understandable to want to watch because you want to be informed.  You want to know what's happening.  

But you can do that in other ways.  So what I do is use an app on my phone.  I just scan the headlines.  My rule is that I only read a story that directly affects me.  I'm not paying attention to any sensationalist stuff unless it has some real effect on my life.  All the other stuff I just ignore.  And I only do that maybe five to ten minutes in the day and that's it.  So I'm getting all the rest of that time back.  

The way I’m making a choice based on love here is that I love my time and my space and I want to be in a peaceful space.  If I’m making a choice based on fear in a case like this, I would be afraid of missing out on some supposedly important story.  

What do we eat?  Do we eat our fear by avoiding toxins or do we eat with love by choosing to respect our bodies?

Satomi:  Every time we eat, we are making choices.  What to eat?  What not to eat?

Paul:  Yeah right.

Satomi:  Let’s say I don't eat fast food right?  Lots of people do that it's actually a healthy choice.  But if you look in a little bit further behind a healthy choice, sometimes there's fear in it.  So you want to be aware of that.  For example, if you say to yourself: “If I eat fast food, I might get sick.”  So if that's your focus, if you're avoiding sickness, then that's a fear-based decision.  It’s great that you’re making healthy choices, but if you’re doing that because you’re afraid of what might go wrong if you don’t, then it’s not actually helping right?  That can actually make you sick.  

Paul:  Yeah, there's cases of people who avoid everything that could possibly cause cancer, and they end up getting cancer

Satomi:  Exactly.  But instead of making a fear-based and avoid you can simply shift the perspective.   Instead of focusing on what could go wrong, you focus on what you can gain, then you can get all the benefits of good health without unknowingly attracting what you don’t want.  

Paul:  Yeah right, it's just a perspective shift.

Satomi:  Yes, just that simple perspective shift.  Simply say to yourself, “So if I eat this, I'm going to be healthy.”  Don't focus on what could go wrong because then you're actually using the law of attraction against yourself.  

Paul:  Right, you're actually inviting that cancer or other health issue.

Satomi:  Right.

Paul:  So, it’s just a matter of loving what you eat and loving your temple right?

Satomi: Yeah, exactly.

What do we say and do?  Are we afraid of what others might do and then react?  Or do we choose to act by choosing a way that comes from the heart? 

Paul:  And then there’s relationships.  Right.  So this is a tricky one.  

Let's say I'm grumpy right?  It happens from time to time.  And the thing is that since you’re an empath, you know when I'm grumpy before I do.  And when I'm grumpy you kind of just shut down.  It's so weird because I automatically interpret that as you're mad at me for something.  

The trick is what choice do I make when you’re like that?  You're already making a choice.  I have choices and you have choices right?  If I'm making choices based on fear, I would probably say, You have some problem!” Right?  

Satomi:  Exactly.  I might yell at you and say all kinds of things.  But, instead, I step back and decide “I'm just going to be patient here.”  Sometimes I gotta turn up my patience to max, but to him I look like I'm shut down. Yeah “I don't want to deal with you anymore”, kind of thing.   

Paul:  Yeah probably.  So my job in that situation is to also not make a choice based on fear.  My fear would be that she's upset.  And that it would be an unpleasant situation.  That's what I really don't want to happen.  To me, it looks like you’re starting it.  I don't even know I'm irritated yet.  So I have to refrain from blaming you and then saying:  “Hey, like what's your problem?  Why are you upset with me?  What's the deal?  Right?  Or refrain from getting angry with you.  

There was a situation like that just recently.  And what I did instead was hold back.  I chose to meditate instead and that allowed me to release not only all the desire to react to you but also the irritation I felt that was starting the whole thing.   So afterwards I was fine.  

That's an example of how you can make choices based on love and not fear in relationships. 

Acting and speaking from love is good for business and the world

Paul:  So how does that fix the world problems like COVID or the economy or something like that?  Well, if you are making choices that are based on love instead of fear like for example what you are eating or in your relationships, then you’re putting yourself into a healthy state of mind.   You are empowering yourself.  

And the best part of that is that actually empowers you to make more good choices and make a difference in your world.

And relationship dynamics are powerful.  If I’m making the choice to go meditate instead of getting mad at Satomi, then I’m empowering myself.  And if she’s choosing to be patient, then she’s empowering herself.  And it goes back and forth in a self-reinforcing way and it builds on itself and in that way we help each other.  

And those relationship dynamics they carry over into work right?

So let’s take for example two separately owned ice cream shops and they're across the road from each other.  In one of them, the employees kind of just show up for work and hold the attitude of “Oh you know, whatever, I just do my job because I have to right?”  That kind of thing.  And at the other ice cream shop, the employees are making the choice to earn money because that gives them the ability to save up and buy a car right?  That empowers them.   When they make a decision like that, that's going to reflect in the relationships they have with each other at the workplace and also with the clients.  Every businessman knows how important that is.  Business is ALL about relationships.  Every time somebody comes in to buy ice cream they're dealing with somebody who loves being there, right?  

I'm not an economist but I know for a fact that that ice cream shop with the positive work environment, is going to do way better business.  That makes a difference economically right?  So that business has a way better chance to flourish.  By itself that one ice cream shop doesn't fix the economy as a whole.   But the next place doing the same thing and the next and so on - that makes an enormous difference in how things get done right?  That has a real effect on the economy.

That's one way the small decisions that we make bubble up and affect much larger things like the whole world.  

And if we're making decisions like we have been for so long in the world - based on fear and sitting on the edge of our couch watching the news about the next possible thing that could go wrong anywhere… if we're just staying in that place and staying anxious, we can't fix it.  We're staying disempowered.

So the way that helps that I know of is to make those decisions based on love instead of fear.  Even just the little ones that we make every single day in the world right around us.  That's where we can make our big difference.  So just do what we can do.   

Love is stronger than fear

Paul:  In the end love is stronger than fear.

Satomi:  Yeah

Paul:  That's what it comes down to.  

What simple shift can you think of that would bring love into your life instead of fear?  Write to us in the comments below.  We'd love to hear.  

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Satomi:  Bye for now ☺️