Nature heals overwhelm - Married to an Empath Episode 2

An insight into how to deal with other people’s negativity.

Empathic overwhelm!

Paul:  Satomi’s been having a bit of a rough time.

Satomi:  Everybody knows about the whole COVID thing.  As an empath, you feel people’s pain, worry, fears.

Paul:  Oh yeah, people are getting sick. 

Satomi:  Oh yeah.

Paul:  They’re in financial troubles.

Satomi:  They’re in confusion.  And then they’re protesting.

Paul:  Yeah, there’s the protests, people are really upset, there’s racial tension.

Satomi:  Yeah, SO MUCH going on.  

Paul:  Everybody feels it, but you feel it a lot.

Satomi:  Yeah, a little more.  On top of that, all of a sudden…

And then my brother almost died!

Paul:  My brother… he... he almost died.  He had to get surgery. We’re so glad that he’s been able to recover.  He’s come out and he’s now staying with us.  It’s a bit of a full house right?

Satomi:  It’s already a full house!  There’s six of us! 

Paul:  There’s six of us, and a cat, and now there’s his cat, and him.

Satomi:  Yeah, there’s seven of us and two cats. 

And then add family drama, arguments...

Paul:  Yeah, everybody understands family dynamics. Everybody gets that.  You kind of push each other’s buttons.  I push his buttons, he pushes mine.  Okay and it was Saturday, and we had already two kind-of heated conversations.

Satomi:  Kind of?!? Yeah right!

Paul:  It was a little tense.  And it was a lot to deal with.  And Satomi was keeping it together, it was amazing how well she was doing.  But then it came around to 10pm and he starts up another conversation and it got heated again.  It was kind of a rough conversation.  But it actually resolved well.  It got to a good point and it was actually a helpful conversation in the end.  So I come down to the bedroom.  Satomi’s already there and I just say “So that went really well.”  But I was greeted by dead silence.

It’s too much, I’m done!

Satomi:  And I’m like what did you say?  It went really well?  No!  How many times have I told him I want quiet wind down time before bedtime so I can have a peaceful, calm, relaxing time so I can have a nice sleep?!?  And after 10pm after they had already had two big fights, and two isn’t enough, so they’re going to have three?  I feel it all over my body.  Pain and anger and it’s very painful.  There’s no way I can relax and peacefully go to bed.  So when he said, oh that went well.  No it didn’t!  There’s no way I can wind down here!  Aaaaaah!  That’s what I was feeling.

Balancing act

Paul:  Okay this situation is not so easy.  To me it’s not such a big deal to have a heated conversation.  I can deal with that.  But, for her, it’s a WAY bigger deal.  And I’ve learned to recognize that over time and I’ve gotten better at it, so I didn’t escalate the situation and create a fight, so I did okay with that.  But it was still an uncomfortable evening and we kind of just left it off there.

Mother Nature heals

Satomi:  Sometimes I can get overwhelmed by other people’s feelings.  When I’m feeling sad or mad or anything, the first thing I do is check myself and see if this feeling is coming from me or not.  Like if I’m feeling sad, do I have a reason to feel sad.  Or mad… why am I mad?  When I have a reason, yes I take responsibility and I deal with it.  But sometimes I have no reason to be sad or mad.  That’s when I’m receiving other people’s feelings.  And there’s lots of things you can do to deal with it.  And we’ll get into more of them in other episodes but one of my personal favourite things to do when I’m feeling overwhelmed, is to come out into nature.

Nature tells me everything is going to be okay.  Everything is perfect as it is.  I receive those messages, I love it.

Sometimes when you’re living in the city, you cannot come to the mountains.  That’s when I just come out to the park and lay on the grass.  That helps me a lot.

Because Satomi is an empath, she gives and I’m grateful for what I learn from her

Paul:  So, what I’ve learned is that this stuff isn’t easy.  Working on you with all this emotional stuff.  I’m a guy.  I’m logical.  I try to solve everything like it’s a problem.  But when I step back from that and I don’t try to problem solve.  And I actually learn to listen to you.  Just listen.  And I learn to connect.  I learn a whole different language and a whole different way of looking at the world.  I gain awareness of how things are really working. How they’re all connected, how people are connected… their relationships and how that all works way better.  Thank you for that.  Seriously.

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And we’ll see you soon.

Satomi:  Bye bye!